It’s been a somewhat rocky week. A week where the norm was throwing spoons at your brother’s head, melting down as the carpool arrives, spitting on a girl at the park and general difficulty weathering the day without crying, yelling and dramatic unhappiness.
It was also a week I had planned a little love project. And boy, did we need it.
The premise was simple. A ceramic heart dish. A bowl of marbles. And a week spent focusing on love.
My goal? I hoped the boys would be reminded that the loving things they do fill people with love. And I hoped I would see more love – genuine, spontaneous acts of love – over the week.
So what did we learn about love?
Love can create excitement.
Fin got Eli’s socks for him. Eli let Fin choose the parent he would snuggle. In went two marbles.
They worked hard on their Valentine cards all week.
While working on Valentine’s Day cards Eli said, “Wow, Fin! That is a very fancy Valentine!”
They paused and looked at each other. Eli said, “That’s…” Fin replied, “10 marbles!” And they ran over to add a marble to the dish. (I’ll forget they briefly fought over who would put the marble in and what color it would be.)
Love may influence you to make less than ideal choices.
Fin: I helped someone at school today!
Me: That’s great! Tell me about it!
Fin: (Thinking hard.) Um….uh…I…I helped Alex?
He looks over at me to see if I’m buying it.